In the previous article I told you about my journey towards self-acceptance and ultimately self-confidence. However, I did not explicitly share with you the things that helped me gain and maintain a strong self-confidence, high self-esteem and profound self-love. Thus, in this article, I will share 4 key things that helped me then and still help me to this day.
#1. Getting to know God and his word.This is THE KEY to it all! When I began to discover my identity in Christ, I started to accept my self a lot more, and ultimately, gained way more confidence. I read and declared verses of the book of Psalms such as “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” –Psalm 139: 14. I made them my personal anthem! When I found out that God made me to His image (Genesis 1:26-27), and that I was the apple of His eyes (Zechariah 2:8), what men and the devil said no longer mattered. God is the King of kings, He is great and mighty; powerful and loving. Wisest God ever, and I am made to His image. How can any of men’s word or the devil’s lies make me feel little, or worthless? When you know these truths, you can no longer lack self-confidence or self-love; because the God who lives in you is bigger than the one who lives in this world and he has given you power and authority (1 John 4:4 & Luke 10:19). You are not just an ordinary someone. #RememberThat!
#2. The second thing that helped me, is getting to know myself. In depth. Yes, at 20 something years old some of us still do not really know who we are, who we are not; what we like and don’t like; who we want to be, and what we want to do. By spending more time with myself (and with God), I started to get to know myself in new depths. I realized that there were several things that I let people say about me that were not true. I was finally conscious that people’s words, their insults, their useless, negative remarks did not have to become my reality. I love this saying “sticks and stones might break my bones, but your words cannot harm me”. I repeated that to myself as I was digging deeper to get to know this amazing, perfectly imperfect; talented; intelligent; loving, and carrying young woman that I am. At that stage of my life, finally, the size of my buttocks no longer mattered! #Victory!
#3. Finding things that I loved, things that I was good at, and also investing more – (time, money, energy) – in things that I already knew I was good at, really helped me grow and be more confident with myself. God was kind enough to give me a few talents, and instead of obsessing over what I was unable to do, I started perfecting what I was able to do. I spent time and money on my talents, abilities, and gifts. (I am still in that process). I started sharing my talents and passions with others, and it made me feel great to see what a positive impact it could have on others. Consequently, my confidence grew. I always say, if it is not a sin, and it makes you feel good: DO IT! Especially if you are good at it. #DoYouBoo!
#4. This is a little bonus. It’s a given, (kinda), but I want to mention it still. STAY POSITIVE! Positivity is magical! No lies!!! Many Christians know the bible, know who they are in Christ, but they are such negative Nancy’s… Lack of faith? Demonic warfare? I don’t know, but some of our beloved seemed to have been dropped in a negativity pot when they were babies. Don’t be them! Be positive, always. In your thoughts, in your speech, and in your actions. Towards others as well as yourself. When I started focusing on the positive, things changed, my confidence grew. I was focused on what is beautiful about me, inside out. When someone said to me, your are shaped funny, I said to myself, but you are very smart. When I was told your sister is prettier than you, I said thank you, she is my sister, my little top model, I bet you wished she was yours?! #IWin! They say, when life gives you lemon, make a lemonade. Well I don’t like lemonade, so I made lemon curd tart instead. All I’m trying to say here is, stay positive. Even when it’s really hard, try! #Positivity
There are a few other little things that I did that helped me feel better like finding my style, reading blogs, watching youtubers speak about the subject, workout, etc. But these 4 tips are the main things that made me reach the final line in my race to self-confidence.
Try them, they might help you. 😉
I pray that God reveals to you who you are in him. I pray that he shows you your true identity, your personality and your talents. I pray that positivity is your daily bread, and that he gives you the ability to turn your sour lemons into a sweet little lemonade. (Or a yummy lemon curd tartlet) 😀