Hello princes and princesses, hope you are all doing well. As mentioned in the last article, today we’ll discuss soul ties.
Soul ties?!? We hear it often, but, quite frankly, do we REALLY know what it is? I sure thought I did, until I did some research for these posts… Let me tell you, I learned a lot more!
(**The term soul tie is not found in the bible, but it adequately describes biblical truths**)
I could write chapters about this, but let’s keep it short and simple. What are they? How do they happen? What do they do?
A soul tie can simply be defined as “two souls being entwined, linked, tied to one another following sexual / spiritual intimacy ” -#DaughterOfTheMostHigh dictionary 😁
From everything I read that is the definition I came up with.
The urban dictionary defines it as ” A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse. To the point that when you want to be rid of them from your mind and your life, even when you are far away from them and out of their presence you still feel as if they are apart of you and apart of you is with them, Causing you to feel unwhole […]“.
The source might be debatable, but the definition is pretty good and complete. See, “soul ties” isn’t a term made up by some “Christian freak”…. EVERYONE IS/CAN BE CONCERNED!
There are good (healthy/godly) and bad (unhealthy/ungodly) soul ties. An example of a godly soul tie is David and Jonathan’s friendship. (” And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul ” – 1 Samuel 18:1 ).
For the sake of the series on abstinence, I will focus on ungodly soul ties; they are formed, (majority of times), through sexual intimacy outside of marriage. It can also be formed through, adultery, abusive relationships (physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally), “obsessive entanglements with a person (giving them more authority in your life than you give to God)”, and a few more. Note that sex is a predominant factor.
Some article I read said that “Sex is a tridimensional experience : spirit, soul and body. Anytime you have sex with a person, you bond with them“. This kind of bond is meant for husband and wife, ONLY, to have! (Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh – Genesis 2:24).
Have you ever felt like someone was a part of you? Like, no matter how bad they hurt you you kept going back to them? Did you ever let anyone treat you less than your worth and you had no idea why you allowed that? Have you ever been sick to your stomach for saying “never again” but it happened again? Well, if the answer to even one of these questions is yes, there is an ungodly/unhealthy soul tie (s) between you and that person.
Here is why soul ties are bad and why you need to get rid of them / practice abstinence until marriage to avoid them.
1- Because a soul tie ties/knits two souls together on a Spiritual level, it can serve as bridges to pass spiritual bagage or “demonic garbage “. I mentioned this in my last post : what ever spiritual burden the person you sleep with carries, becomes yours as well. Because through sexual encounter, you become one flesh (1 Corinthians 6:16).
2- If a person has had several past relationships, they can find their soul fragmented; there’s a bit of them in every past partner. This makes it more difficult for them to “bond” or commit to anybody. Imagine the complications if that tie isn’t broken before marriage. How can you get closer to someone when parts of you are missing?…
3- It can allow a person to control /manipulate another. “And the other person being manipulated is unaware of what’s happening, or knows what’s going on, but for [not so] mysterious reasons, allows it to go on”. I was a victim of this myself and will tell you more about it in the final post.
I could give you more reasons why ungodly soul ties are toxic. But I think those 3 are enough (for now, at least).
Sex is a beautiful thing. God created it for us to enjoy it. Consequently, he created a specific setting for it. Outside of that setting, sex is no longer enjoyable; it is no longer the beautiful tridimensional experience it was created to be. It merely becomes a physical pleasure of a few minutes, that leaves you more destroyed than fulfilled. Soulties (unhealthy) are dangerous and toxic. I invite you to abstain from sex until marriage so that you can have a healthy tie with your soul mate, and enjoy sex in all three dimensions.
If you’ve had sex before, bad news is YOU HAVE A SOUL TIE (Soul ties). The good news is you can, AND SHOULD, get rid of/ be delivered from them. (Tune in next week to know how 😉 )
I hope this post helps you, even just a tad bit. May God reveal any unknown soul ties to you and deliver you from it.