Can someone tell me why there’s so much pressure to get married, in African communities, in general, and Christian African communities in particular?
Why do we place our sisters/daughters / friends in Christ’s value in the hands of the one they will get married to? Why do we tend to easily forget that our value, each and everyone of us, is in Christ and Christ alone. Our value is not in what our possessions, our career, or the person to whom we are married! All these are accessories that may (or may not), add a little weight to what we are worth. “Knowing that it is not perishable things, silver or gold, that you were bought from the futile ways to live that you have inherited from your fathers, but by the precious blood of Christ, […]” – 1 Peter 1:18-19 – (1 Corinthians 6:20, 1 Corinthians 7:23).
Marriage is not the price for which we are running. So it should not, in any case, be used as a scale to weigh anyone’s worth. The price is eternal life! “I run toward the goal for the prize of the high calling of God in Jesus Christ.” – Philippians 3:14
Don’t get me wrong: I BELIEVE THAT MARRIAGE IS A DIVINE INSTITUTION and must be honored by all (Genesis 2:18, 21-24 & Hebrews 13: 4). I want to get married; I believe it is in God’s plan for MY life. But I also believe that we must stop stressing our young bachelors (and bachelorettes) about this matter. And that is for the two following reasons:
1. Not everyone is destined to marriage! “He said to them,” Not everyone understands this word, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who are from the womb of their mother; There are some who have become so by men; And some have made themselves such, because of the kingdom of heaven. Let him who understands understand. “- Matthew 19: 11-12
2. God is the only Master of times, and as long as His time has not yet arrived, the following questions: “When are you getting married?” Or “So still no fiancé in sight?” (and many more), will remain unanswered.
Instead of stressing us, young singles, to “jump the broom”, rather help us to live a healthy single life, while we wait to meet our life partner. We, who are destined to marry, what do we do in the mean time??
Well, I’ll talk about it next week. 🙂
In the meantime, do not get upset when people comment on your marital status and your naked ring finger. 😏 I heard that the best is kept for the end!!!